You are off the charts angry about her not calling when she said she would. That stems from expectations. First, she not only was able to see you, which mad her not calling when she said she would which makes her so disrespectful, not caring about your M, and all the other things you mentioned. Because you have all these expectations about when and how she should be answering you.
First of all what you think is off the charts angry is far from the truth. Yes I am irked with her, but not I'm not even close to the kind of angry you speak of. If I was I would be actually texting her back and I wouldn't have anything nice to say at all. Forgive me for thinking someone would do something as simple as to actually call me when she said she would, it's a ridiculously easy thing to do. I do have expectations of people in general and treating someone with a small amount of respect is one of them. Thinking that my wife would have a small amount of respect for me is an expectation, but it's the kind of expectations you are thinking I had of the situation. I didn't and I still have no expectations of my wife ever getting back with me or wanting to meet. I think if I am important to her at all and she really wants to say something to me then nothing will stop her from doing it. Nothing stopped me from going to see my wife, even though I was pretty sure she wouldn't see me, because she is important enough to me.
What did she mean by "not that you would care?" She was giving you a reason why she couldn't see you. Because you snuck in on her and she wasn't there. She is saying you wouldn't care what her reason is, not that you don't care about her.
Is she asking for closure now? I don't think she is. She does want to talk, but if you feel she missed the boat and its not going the way you want it to, don't do it.
Her text messages, the fact that I have divorce papers on my kitchen counter, she never wants to come back to where I live, ignoring everyone that was a part of me and how cold she is to me makes me think otherwise. If she doesn't want closure then what pray tell does she want? This seems like such a game. If she doesn't want closure or a divorce then why would she continue on the way she is completely beyond my understanding. Maybe I am just looking at this to realistically and from a mans perspective, although she has always claimed to be very practical.
But really, I think she froze when it came to talking to you. She was processing your surprise trip and was probably scared.
Scared......scared of what? It didn't scare her to sign the divorce papers, so why be scared to call me and just say it's over and there is nothing to be done about it? Shoot why not just text me like she did when she told me she was sending the divorce papers. She could of cleared her conscious by starting it out the same way and saying "I'm sorry to do it this way". I mean once she has gone to the lengths she has what the hell is there to be scared off, what the hell has she got to lose? These are questions that are so confusing to me.
