Chapter 5 - Turning over to a new page

[bigybiz]

Month's ago coach instructed me to do what I can to prevent W from wallowing in the victim mentality. So yesterday, I took the bull by the horns. W typically does not read the family calendar, let's info go in one ear and out the other, ignores my sms, etc. Then says "I did not know..." Last night I called her and said I want to go through the weekend plans as there is lots on.

Of course she said, I did not know... and I won't be able to see S11 before he leaves for camp, etc, etc.

I said to her. I know that, that's why I called. I told her she is welcome to come join us for dinner on Friday night. W replied that she should be able to see S11 on her own.

I said, well you can join us on Friday night. If that is unacceptable, then come up with something else. She said OK - I'm not sure what that means. I do know that she won't be showing up on Saturday morning looking for S11. Then being upset that he's already with his gang at an amusement park for a B'day party.

It may not prevent the victim mentality, it will prevent a blow up.

Let's see what happens.