Trying to pick your brain a bit if you don't mind. Hopefully this doesn't come across as immature which it is to an extent. Your story is awesome by the way.
I see that you were very blunt/aggressive with GAL in the ladder part of your journey. I'm getting that way myself and my schedule is getting too full. Went from staring at the wall for months to being constantly doing something. Its starting to do wonders for my personal confidence. My weakness has always been with women. I like the attention but as soon as I met my wife 7 years ago a switch went off. Only once can I remember caring about another woman's attention except my wife. I do remember drinking one night and flirting with another woman on a guys trip but I caught myself and walked away. That's about it in my seven year R with W. Fast forward to today, been 10-12 months since I was intimate with W. Barely got a kiss from her in this period. She had an affair and moved in with another man in October. Faith based reasons aside, I waited patiently for something to resolve. No big breakthroughs. So now that I lost 25 lbs and in shape, working my referral pipeline (CPA so I'm somewhat slow), diving back into jiu jitsu, my life is taking a turn for the best. Getting attention from women is a byproduct. So with all that, my questions/concerns are threefold:
1) When you started getting attention from other women, what made you stay available for your wife?
2) How close were you to ending everything? Your life seemed awesome so Im guessing you were very close.
3) What's a good indication that its time to move on?
I'm not quite ready to throw in the towel but seeing your W once a month for a couple hrs stinks. Having a woman who was great at everything to having a women that lies about the sky is blue also stinks. I haven't moved on totally but just the thought of this has went from being depressed to anger/laughable. Jerry Springer analogy is great, I been using that one for awhile!
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
