She has got a point. You arrived out of the blue with no notice. You also said she "owed" you a face to face which is all very pressuring. She was probably shocked you were there and didn't know how to handle it. I am sure lots of confusion and fear ran through her and while you were there she didn't know how to handle it because it was a surprise. Maybe, just maybe others were right that the sneak attack wasn't the best idea? Perhaps if this was planned, she would have had time to take it all in and sit down with you?
You said you did this all with no expectation. But your anger is because of what you expected to happen and it didn't, and something else completely different is happening. All your anger is from expectations. Of what you expected and didn't expect.
Right now you feel insulted, angry, and your ego is bruised.
When all that calms down, try to look at it from her shoes. It won't work until you calm down. You are feeling slighted because this did not play out the way your knight in shining armour plan was supposed to.
She wants to talk. Want don't you hear what she has to say when you are in a bettr place?
This couldn't be more wrong! I wasn't mad about us not meeting up. I was happy leaving it as it was with the text saying she couldn't meet up with me and to have fun with my buddy. I did go with no expectations of us meeting or working things out. What irks me is she waits until hours later to ask if she could call me and then puts it off over and over again to ultimately never call me like she said she would. I can't stand it when people are no good for their word. What makes me angry is the fact that she suddenly wants to talk now after I have made nothing but efforts to talk to her. What makes me mad is that she has the nerve to say that I probably don't care about things! What makes me mad is that she thinks she deserves to have closure when I asked for it over and over again.
I had a great time catching up with one of my oldest and dearest friends I have and I really enjoyed our nations capitol and the Smithsonian museums! They are awesome!
