I just arrived in Hawaii and I get off the plane and turn my phone and guess what more crap from my wife!! This is what she sent me.
W: I do want to talk to you, but I understand if you don't want to talk to me. I can make it quick.
W: But you say I owe you a face-to-face. If you let me know you were coming to the DC area I could have arranged it. But showing up out of the blue I was not able to turn around and come back. You might not care about any of that.
W: But I will give you time to respond and if you don't I just text you a couple things.
W: You didn't respond the other day so I wasn't sure if I should call or not.
First of all this is all straight crap. If you tell someone you're going to call be adult about it and keep your word. She says she understands if I don't want to talk to her. This stuff all really irks me to no end. All I have been doing is trying to communicate with her about things and all she did was ignore and ignore everyone else too. I never once told her she owes me a face-to-face. I simply said that this should be done face to face and not through text messages! Come on now, how old are we? I mean it's not like we were just dating, I took a vow to this woman and she to me!
I know showing up out of the blue was on me, but I would think there are certain things in this life that you would make exceptions for and one of them is you're husband or soon to be ex-husband. This really is starting to show me the kind of crap I would have to deal with her and it tells me a lot about the kind of family life she grew up in. Why does she end all of the text with how I might not care about any of that? Is she freaking blind as a bat. I mean come on, what have I been doing this entire time. Why does she think I came to Virginia? She isn't a stupid person, but these are just ignorant comments to say the least.
What kind of game is all of this? Why does she continue to text me, especially when I finally have stopped responding to her. It's what she was doing to me the entire time and it's exactly what she wanted. She cares so little about the life she had with me and all that were involved that she just abandoned it with no look back and her intention the entire time was divorce, so why all this extra crap now. She basically just crapped on all the people that cared about her and still do! I still haven't responded to anything from her and why should I give her the respect now that I wasn't afforded once. Why should I give her the ability to have closure when I asked over and over for it?
What do I do about all of this. What are all your thoughts on this. Is this typical kind of action that happens with people in my situation? All she is doing is making me dislike her more and more and I feel like what we had was a huge lie. My family and friends already think that, especially when she told us she was never herself. That doesn't make anyone feel right about their relationship with her.
