You should be happy. You do that by filling your life with things that make you happy. Your W does not make you happy right now so she needs to take up less and less of your life and your brain space.
If you want to do a GAL activity then do it...for you. If it's something she's interested in then you can be excited about it (for yourself) and talk to her the same way you would a stranger that asks.
As for OM who cares. That's her dirty business. Her mud to wallow in. You're too good for that. Leave her to her mud.
You can't control her, you can control you. If she wants OM in her life, that's fine, then you don't want her. Boundaries. Don't file, just ghost her. Live your life for you as if she doesn't exist.
