So once I get off my flight this morning back from the East Coast I turn my phone and and guess who text me. You got it, my wife. She just says hi and that's it. I don't respond and about an hour and half later she text again and says "Having a good 4th". Again I don't respond and then about 15 min later she text again with "I'm just laying around thinking. You're probably not going to respond to me."
What the hell is this crap.
Sounds like a temperature check. I'm wondering if her family pushed her into filing for D. Her attitude doesn't seem to be consistent with someone that wants D, as I said before she really sounds like she's happy to stay in limbo.
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This game she is playing is getting real irritating to say the least. I don't respond because I just don't know what to say anymore. What the heck does she expect from me? How do you guys respond to this kind of behavior?
What do you want? Do you want to stop the informal chatting? If you think that's best for YOU, then send her one last note politely explaining that you're not going to be replying anymore because you feel that's best for both of you to move on. Then quit replying.
I feel pretty strongly that her family pushed her to do things. I can imagine that she came to them depressed and instead of encouraging the right thing to do they pushed her to get a divorce. I'm sure her friends are involved too, not to mention other men that want her to be divorced so they can move in. Her behavior has been confusing since the beginning. Always doing this temperature check crap. It just irritates the heck out of me to be honestly. She needs to quite being a coward and stand up for herself in one way or the other. For one I struggle to entertain this kind of behavior from the get go. It isn't of my nature to do so at all. Like I have said before, I'm trying to do the right thing and give her enough time and grace that she may have afforded me. I still would like my marriage to move forward in a healthy direction and work on things like we agreed to do when we married. Every thing in me is telling me to be honest with the way I feel about it and it won't be a good experience for her. I will call it the way I see it and let her know it's cramp! Then again I know that probably isn't the best way to go about things and I certainly don't want to screw myself in the long run either way.
