Sorry for your pain
I know how hard it is

all I can say is as much as I didn't want to separate or have XH leave the house for good
It definitely was easier living without his negative hurtful energy around

so If the situation and living together seems too difficult-living separately may be better
but I wouldn't leave if it were me till I knew my rights financially

will she be keeping the kids


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow