Who's fault is this again? Can I forgive her?

[Irish M]

What do you mean, Kept it at bay? I ask because I think I'm doing something similar. Yeah, not giving my heart anytime soon at all. Nope. Not going there, lol.

Hi Bttrfly, xox.
it was meant that I didnt open my heart, or introduce the girls for the past few months. They know I hada frined I was hangin out with and doing activities. No status change on Fb lol.
Actually they were getting curious about her and her son. The introduction was calm, an outdoor activity and lunch. No holding hands or kissing or any contact. Just quality time with the kids. They enjoyed it.

It's how it will be for some time still. Until I am 100% comfortable. She can accept it or not. My girls are first. She actually thanked me because so many new relationships start and kids are casualties again, she had a rough separation and to her 11yr old son it is how it needs to be. We agree on the sensitivity of the kids.


Hi Job, Yes its sad for Xfil. I was out his way today and called their house. I was going to drop in but no answer. I only go out that way every couple of weeks. its 3 hours away.

Hi Peace. Yes I believe the kids adjust as well. I just want to take it extra slow. If its meant to be it all will work out. This way we spend time together, include the kids if they want to join us and I will also keep spending alone time with my girls. no pressure and no real change in their lives. They deserve that :-)

Hi Rd, thanks for the support. Yes monitoring them and their reaction is key. They need to want to open up to her and her son as I did. I believe they will since we all seem to like the same activities. They wont be waking up to her making breakfast any time soon.

hope you are all enjoying the sun. It is finally in my area for more than 3 days .. yayyy summer