Like others Txhub I would like to thank you for your inspirational account. As someone who has recently come out of a 6 month limbo (through finally mentally preparing myself to confront and threaten her with D and have now started counselling) I can now visualise the various paths ahead but of course hope it is with a preserved marriage. It will never be the same again (not least the trust issues) but it MIGHT just be workable.

all the best

Me 55, W 50
D 8
M 20
T 27
MIL w/ us
BD 01/02/17
workplace A (12/09/16, EA -> PA)
OM senior manager, long term W, child 14
now: limbo (my choice)

"Don't care what you may do, we got that attitude!" - Bad Brains