Wife moved to parents on opposite coast #4

[25yearsmlc]

[quote=25yearsmlc]Cali

I asked you how you felt about the beauty comments & literally not having any other qualities of hers which you love. I know they exist, but I asked you how you felt (seeing that in writing.)

Other than what you "think" about things and how you wish you had done things, I miss hearing what you FEEL about it all.

To be clear - I believe you feel deep emotions, though I"m not sure you let yourself really go there. I'm not a T. But I wonder why you have not talked to someone.

Not my business but I sure as heck did not have the tools I needed to get through this.

((( )))

I'm not seeing a T. I know it's really hard for you guys to understand me and how I am able to deal with things because it isn't anywhere near the norm and maybe it's abnormal, but I am truly fine and I will always be fine.


Cali, is this an attribute to you? You want to "always be fine"? Because it reads to me as if nothing matters much to you. Or you cannot face it when they do. And yes it comes across as abnormal. The only people I know who literally talked to zero professionals when life threw them a heartbreak curve ball, will repeat the same choices they made originally. How can they not?

I'm so sorry to say that b/c I know it'll come across as an insult. I hope you can trust that it's not meant as one.

Also, if you can, check out and address the numerous questions I asked of you in your letter. It's not really about "the letter" or what you wanted to say to your wife obviously, but how you view things and your part in it.


I deal with things really easily and I have thought about this in depth before when trying to understand why I don't have the same break downs as most others do.

Who said seeing a therapist mean you were breaking down? And btw, who "broke down" in your life? What would that look like to you?


- as I have this entire time, I will be just fine and know life goes on and there is no reason for me to let anything ruin my life, even for a little bit. I am very optomistic about how things always turn out and I will always come out on top. This is just my view of life. I have learned a great deal through the kind of things I train in and coach.

Dp you teach people how to cope with gut wrenching heartbreak?