Being deflated I'm afraid is something we have to get used to , these people are on a rollercoaster ride and in turn affects us the same way. When they are suffering they come back to their BS for support and we feel "this is good" then when things are going well with the two lovebirds we're dropped like the proverbial hot stone this is where the deflation for me comes from.
I feel the detaching is working ever so slightly, I agree we must continue to have dialog BUT only those that involve logistics and our children or in an emergency situation. Me personally NOT having any contact has aided me in finding peace which in turn allows me to better focus on my strategies for trying to get my M back.
I'm more focused on my boys and myself and don't give the time of day to thinking about what my WW is doing. Allowing your H to come back at the weekend for me would be under one condition and I think you know what that would be... Cake eating gets us nowhere.
Continue to be strong your doing well.
Take care. Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
