Cadence, I loved that post. TO, acting instead of reacting is a must by doing that you are regaining control of your life and removing from him the major tool he was using against you, making you react to justify his behavior/actions. He knows he will be judged by others if he leaves you with 3 kids, his image will be tarnished so he needs "examples" of how terrible his life was with you, by creating those fights he can use them to support his choices with him in the role of the poor guy who couldn't take it anymore. I believe in you. You are starting to change, to be more in control. Go TO.
Me 52+ WH 57+ Married 20 + Piecing since 2016 (ready to give up...)
