Thanks bttrfly.

I used to wonder if I got lucky and decided to save myM just before it was too late. I started trying before I got bombed. Time will tell on that one.

But I am appreciative of still having my W at home. Until one of us voices it is over, I move forward believing that a turn around is possible. That is different from believing that it will.

I also get to see my W struggle with being unhappy. She is not in a good place. So when it gets to me I think it is probably worse for her. She is a shadow of herself and that is sad.

I would lie if I said that makes it easy, but it does make it easier.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together