I am very glad that you and the girls had a great time away. At least the rain didn't curtail some of your activities.
I think you are very wise in how you are handling your next chapter. I know you will take things slowly and allow not only your girls to heal, but yourself as well.
I am also sorry how things are going for your exfil and pray that they can keep him comfortable.
I sense that your life's next chapter will be a very happy one for all of you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.