Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 10

[PsySara]

Hello friends! I've been peeking in and reading everyone's posts but have been so busy I haven't had time to respond. I'll cut to the chase and give updates.

Since I made it clear with WH I was done and probably going to talk to a lawyer (and meant it!) he has done some serious changes. HE texted me the next day, "Thank you for giving me a chance, I know it's been hard and I am trying to change. You are worth fighting for." Since then he has been very engaged with the kids and me. He also has been pitching in a LOT more around the house. One of the hardest jobs is taking care of the pets in the morning at 6 am. WH loves his sleep and I am often up for hours before he gets out of bed. Well yesterday I awoke to the puppies being fed, the guinea pigs fed and the cats fed. We are still potty training our puppies and WH had already cleaned their area and sanitized it. My jaw fell open because this was at 6 am on a Saturday.

Earlier this week WH asked me to meet him at a fireworks tent and he bought a ton of fireworks for the 4th, he contacted the neighbors and we spent the latter part of the evening shooting them off. We also enjoyed a bar-b-que with friends where WH cooked everything. I find myself more relaxed around him. The triggers are not as intense and often. When they happen he has become more attentive and asking if I need anything. We started watching a new show, America gods, and the very first episode involves infidelity. I was blunt with WH telling him that the show was intriguing but it was really hard for me to watch that particular part. He immediately asked if I wanted to turn it off. I assured him I could watch it but I may need some breaks now and then. It looks like WH has started to understand empathy and how to show it.

I am still holding WH at arm's length. I still feel he needs a lot more progress before I feel comfortable being around my vulnerable side. But we've taken a turn and it appears to be one for the better.