I just breezed through quickly so pardon me if I don't know everything.
I will say you need to let your W go. I know it is so much easier said then done but she KNOWS she can still have you. Nobody is saying you have to date but maybe you should be a little mysterious. Don't be so readily available to her. Maybe next time she has to stop by you're dressed up and headin out the door. You're nice but in a hurry because you have somewhere to be. No details just friendly wth a smile and wish her well on your way.
Her life will turn crappy. She may just be testing the waters to make you feel sorry for her that her life is crappy.
Don't text her. Don't call her. Let her initiate all contact. If she writes. Wait to respond. You're busy remember.. she's not a priority anymore. Maybe in doing so she might realize she wants to be a priority again
