Yes I'm beginning to detach better it just feels so counterproductive, almost like "I give up here you can have her!" I do the safe place thing because I L her, I cant really be cold and unresponsive to her BUT I'm not going chasing either.
I appreciate your comments on the first argument and at this present time feel I might just laugh out loud, somewhat prepared for this as I believe in the limerent process but am no fool.
Detachment is getting easier and as long as I can continue to see my boys then I will be able to cope with the rest. I am now having to prepare myself for her taking them away with the AP/LO on holiday for a few days AND their forward planning of moving out of the family home and into a place of their own!
I'm aware I should not believe anything they say and only half of what they do but it amazes me how totally wrapped up in their A they get as what I'm hearing is just not practical and something my WW would never contemplate without me able to support it. Bound to failure...
Emotionally having to release my boys back to her knowing they are going back to him and S8 so impressionable is hard he's so confused but just need to show him what a proper parent looks like.
Thanks for keeping in touch.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
