Hi Elfie, Sad to read your story - but you seem to be in a better place, observing your H from a safe but enlightened distance. Like you, I haven't posted in a long time but do read the posts of others when I'm at a loss to understand what has happened my H. I too, am at this a long time, BD was 2012, I am detached now and focussing on my own life and my adult children, I have some contact with my H who lives in another country but the reason your story caught my attention was twofold; you are not divorced despite the timeline - my H recently suggested that we shouldn't bother getting divorced because there would be too much paperwork even though He is now living full time with OW! and the other reason is that he told me he is seeing a 'spirtitualist' (at a fee he is unwilling to disclose - introduced to him by OW who paid for the early sessions) I know very little about these sessions other than she too suggested that he should leave his wife and children to pursue his own path as 'an individual'. For an intelligent man he doesn't seem to see the connection between the OW's desires and her efforts to get him to see her 'spirtiualist'.
Also, I too feel sad for my H - he has no idea of the damage he is doing to himself as well as others.
Just curious, if your H came back to you now and asked you take him back, would you?
