NYGal Still Working on It

[Stormchaser]

I'm sorry to say this, NYGal - but NO job is THAT important. I'm sure there's exceptions to the rule, such as the possibility of losing your house or benefits, but that's rare IMO. If you're THAT good at what you do, you can find somewhere else to utilize those talents.

I was gaslighted by my MC, exIC and W for almost a year, all of them telling me that her job was a specialty, that quitting would only make things worse because it would show that my wife is a quitter - all this crap was merely excuses. Only when I started seeing a new IC did I start to realize that had she quit immediately, she would've found a new job in that year. All that year did is set us back horribly, with me wondering daily what kind of interraction my W was having with OM at work. Sure, she tried to reassure me, but seriously....NC at work? My new IC helped me realize that ain't happening.

When I found out OM got promoted and would be my W's boss, that was it. Line drawn. My W knew that wouldn't fly so she resigned immediately that day. You know what? I'm SO relieved now.....its done. Yes, we're broke. Yes, we're maxed out on credit. And YES, our marriage can finally recover, which it is. Now that there's NC, I can finally calm down and refocus on us. No more temper explosions, no more worry. Done. Kaput. Fini.

I should've drawn that line last year. This is something I will always regret. Don't be that person, ok?