Andrew - you're right she's just someone I used to know. But how do I let go of that piece you pointed out?
Another- thank you it's nice to hear words of encouragement. Sometimes I don't feel like I'm where I need to be emotionally with my wife, but I'm getting there. And I guess half the battle if not most, is that I feel like I'm right where I need to be in all other aspects of my life.
Coconut -wow. "don't make 100% the only destination that matters, live the journey" I actually wrote that on a sticker and put it on my work monitor. I can't tell you how great those words are. I will continue to tell myself every day. And yes, I miss something and I can't quiere put my finger on it, sometimes I think it's my wife other times I'm like "something" interestingly enough I don't look back with anger, more of regret? Guilt? That I wasn't this amazing cheesy back when that's all my wife wanted.
Blue! So nice to hear for you. I will work on not putting a number on it, and like coconut said, I'll try not to make 100% the destination. I agree, I read somewhere that divorce is harder than death for that reason that you know they're there. I guess I still can't believe my wife never wanted me back. Very apart from would I take her back, never got the chance to make that choice. I do want to move on and get over this, but I'm inpatient. I guess I just have to keep working at it till one day w is just a distant memory. Thank you. I'm struggling today and yesterday and idk just feeling overly emotional and I am really hard on myself. I feel like I'm not allowed to be emotional cus it's been forever (haha feels like it) and I am mostly ok, hate the downs. But I know they are part of the process. Thank you again. Love hearing from you all!
