Regarding my previous post and the responses about getting over my anger toward ow... Like BluWave said, I think it's particularly difficult because ow is the head of Human Resources here, so her reach extends throughout this place. She has dated at least three but maybe four or more people at our place of employment (was married to one). She has no boundaries and when she sees an opening that might help her and she jumps right in, no matter who she hurts.
I can't do anything when I see her in my building or in the parking lot or in the stairwell or in town. Or when a meeting invitation comes for my boss and ow is on it. Or when I have to schedule or be in a meeting with her (always with others). I can avoid thinking about her Saturday and Sunday, but as I'm arriving at work on Monday it all floods back. I don't want to see her. I don't want to hear about her. But I have to.
And it doesn't help when W hides her phone and doesn't keep promises not to call her "about 100% work related business". That happened this morning. As we agreed, she told me that ow emailed her last night, and even showed me the email a little bit ago. She agreed not to call her as ow requested, but rather to email her back. But she called her cell phone instead. So I don't know what to do about that. I keep trying to clarify the agreement and insist that she be honest and keep her promises. But she's stubborn and will do it her own way. Over and over. So we struggle. And not to be dramatic, but I suffer. I do. And I wish with all my heart it could be different.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
