You may think you have the losing hand, but truly, you hold the cards to your own happiness. The answers are within you, but you need to step away from your situation to actually think about what you want. Yes, you are there, living w/a hermit day in and day out. Maybe it's time for you to take a little solo vacation, to actually be able to see the light that shines behind the clouds.
The answers will come...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.