Limerence and My Situation 2

[Parkema]

Hello All,

Seems quite an apt time to post an update given where the thread as gone to.

Last night I agreed to pick my S10 up from his school disco and take him back to the family home. One of the boundaries I have put in place is that I NEVER come into contact with the AP/LO for obvious reasons, anyway whilst I was dropping him off I noticed two soccer (football to us in the UK) trophies on the window ledge. Now whilst I was there all of my trophies ended up in the shed (not enough room to display) BUT could have displayed the really important one's!

Unfortunately I took offence at this and it all kicked off with all of the DR'ing and strategies thrown out of the window. Everything that I know we shouldn't do I did and I'm so disappointed in myself.

The crux of it was for my WW and myself talking about no contact at all which I instigated and so now I will no longer have any contact with her. Also due to me GALing better she got it into her head that I was seeing someone, I never confirmed or denied this and charged neutral at this point.

As you can imagine this is TOTALLY different to how I would want to handle this situation but as I mentioned before I knew it would evolve as darker days had to be prepared for.
I will continue to do what I have done and see this episode as a bad day at the office BUT will stay true to the words I said last night and totally detach from her and manage the visitation issues as best I can.

Thanks for reading and take care.

Mark.