.....one more thing.... when the shiftwork was working as she got older, I did not depend on him to pick of the slack either. I took it upon myself to leave a position in my career I loved to get something that fit our daughters schedule. (I'm a nurse by the way, you seem to be a healthcare professional too). I did this because I never wanted to rely on him and he wasn't willing to make any adjustments (he actually ended up taking one night less a week instead).
