But you can afford to run out now and get DB book, follow it up with reading DR!
It's a road map to help you!
As mentioned above, do NOT let you spouse see it.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13