It results from a little impropriety at our place of employment and the higher ups have asked ow to step in and help with teaching W's department about ethics and integrity.
Life is funny sometimes, isn't it?
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The bit about how I am disgusted by any attempt for them to normalize any interaction? It's my bottom line. It's not OK.
I'm not sure what you mean by this, since you say that they do have to work together. What is the boundary?
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I think the best thing for me is to keep GALing and be independent and strong and interesting, and not so predictable that she can take me for granted. If I make and keep a happy home and am not just a doormat that's got to help, right?
Right. Things seem okay right now, but there's always room for improvement.
My instinct is to focus on yourself and nourishing your own soul to the point that you feel strong enough to leave if you needed to.
Once you get to that point, where you're not afraid to lose her, I think that things will improve. There's a power imbalance now. We're not allowed to recommend other resources, but I've read a very interesting book in the past that addresses power in relationships and uses the terms "one-up" and "one-down." Basically, the one-up always has more power because they are focusing on themselves and their hobbies and are less afraid to walk away. Their attraction to the one-down is lesser than the one-down's attraction to the one-up.
I think letting W back relatively easily made you the one-down. So it's time to devote energy into yourself get closer to being the one-up!
