Yes, this. Exactly this. If you're frustrated and angry then you're not doing it right.
Its hard not to be, really hard, but I'm trying.
This is going to get harder for her soon. When I tell my friends that we are separating again, I wont be holding back the reason why. This isn't out of spite or me trying to be vengeful, its that I'm not going to be part of this shitty little secret anymore. There will be blow back for my W that I cant control and have no desire to.
I have just read "Healing from Infidelity" by MWD and in it she says to be careful who we expose the A to as if my W and I do reconcile in the future, we only want friends who are supportive of our marriage to know what really happened.
So, I wont be going out with a big post on facebook or anything but will be letting my close family and friends know the reasons why.
