There were two things that helped me not show him my emotional/infuriated self and that guided my actions. The first was being the good neighbor and the second was pretending we have been amicably divorced for several years.
So I allowed myself to pretend that I was one of these two things whenever I saw him or had to interact with him. In both of those Rs--with a neighbor or XH--it would be appropriate to be matter of fact, polite, and detached in interactions. If it's not something you can imagine someone doing or saying with the neighbor, then don't do or say it. It feels unnatural and takes some acting skills, but it does get easier with practice. ... It also started to confuse him (or so I thought) because he could no longer get in my head....
Blu
Excellent advice, Blu! Bravo!
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
