25yearsMLC - 10 yrs Later I File D (pt 5)

[25yearsmlc]

I think this is my first post to you, but I have followed along and just never knew what to say, but I've silently stood back and supported you from afar. But I want to comment, because I think you letter may come across as complaining to them about their son. So I wanted to give it a go and see if I could come up with something from a different pov.

OKAY People how is this?? remember that h has for a fact, told everyone how very much he is paying me forever, which is -

a) factually untrue since he has never once paid me what the court ordered

and

b) it was temporary support anyhow.


Dear In-laws,

I realize that the breakdown in my R with your son is going to change my R with you in the future, I still stand in disbelief when I think about the last 18 months and how much has changed.

I am reaching out to you b/c of d19. I want to make sure that I do everything I can to keep her from experiencing more loss in her life. She has never been happier than she is being in college, she's made the Dean's list all 4 semesters of these last 2 years and she finally has a support system of smart healthy people around her, that is reassuring to witness.

However, her tuition is no longer being paid by her father, which we learned last month. I am not able to pay her college tuition due to not yet being fully employed & not receiving spousal support.

I don't know what h says or believes, but he's not paying even the temporary support ordered by the court.

And since d19 is listed as his dependent, his income prevents her from getting any need based aid. As you may know, a 1/4 of her college is paid for with her academic achievements, but it's not enough.

She will need to drop out of college if her tuition isn't paid in the next few weeks. It's incredibly hard for me to ask this. But I want to make sure I have done anything/everything I can to try and keep her in college. So I'm putting my pride aside for her sake.

You are my children's only grandparents. FIL, you've been in my life longer than my own dad and d19 knows no other grandfather. FIL's wife, you have been a fixture of loving support and grace for me, & our children.

I hope their relationships with you continue to be the source of good family memories & adventures, that it has been for them and me.