I couldn't have done it (reconciliation) had she not been remorseful. However, I definitely did change once I found out about her indescritions. I didn't sit and say "oh woe is me" and cry a river about it. I got off my arse and did something. She was SHOCKED at the fury I showed, thinking I would simply blow this off. She wasn't prepared for me telling her to leave the house. She wasn't prepared for the onslaught of hatred from the kids.
TxHubby Congrats on your situation, gave me a little hope that I could survive this. Not saving my marraige but saving myself! I quoted the above from StormChaser, my WW and I had to talk the other night about logistical stuff regarding the divorce filing ie.... custody, house etc.... As we discussed talking to the kids I asked her is she prepared to answer a question. She said to me "what question" if one of our kids asks us if we cheated how will she answer? She had a full meltdown and finally said she would need a couple days to think about it. We've had family's around us get divorced because of infidelity so my kids are under the impression that this is why marriages fail. So, "I told her that you better prepare for that question because I will not help you on this, you're on your own. Good luck with that" She didn't like that but oh well, I'm not the one who cheated!
