I will get back to you, but wanted you to know that I read your post and support you still. At times I feel it is lousy form for the WAS to not walk away. It is part of their job description. But it has given you time to detach and him time to be less in cuckoo-land. Most lbs are still reeling when left, and your h seems more stable.

In time you will figure out how to play the hand you were given.

So how are you living life with a bigger spoon ?

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together