The one thing I will have to stop myself from doing is telling her about her faults too. Although, I feel she needs to hear some of the things I had to deal with her because it isn't all my fault. It always takes two. so what? Are you crossing the country to tell your wife, the love of your life, how it's not all your fault? Only time will show her this.
if you say it, she will delay learning it or maybe even block it out b/c you hurt her and in her mind, the rejection she felt for so long is not making her ripe for your feedback about her flaws.
You are really missing a chunk of what your mission is now...you're not there to make things even, you're not there to bring her down a notch to be on a level playing field I will tell her the same things I have before, Why?? These things kept you guys apart, and now she's filed for divorce, so doing the exact same negative things again, expecting different results is a pattern of yours, so please -no no no but she will probably say they are exactly just that, I'm just repeating it again. She said she can't trust that I will change and or I will only change for a little while.
Wow, she is being so clear with you. And yet you think it's important to (your ego) tell her what you think her problems are?
Come on Cali, you know better in your heart and your head. It's pride that is driving you and you're hurt b/c she filed.
The biggest motivator to get your wife to miss you, is to show your attributes, not your critical nature or judgement.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
