I havent read everything admittedly. But to me, it seems kind of rude to just show up unannounced. I feel like instead it would be better to let her know that date and time you will be doing xx or yy and give her the option to join you or not.
Just my 2 cents.
Have a good trip.
I hear you and I am trying to figure the best way to go about it because I agree, but I also see her getting an ear full from a bunch of people who don't support marriage if she knows to soon ahead of time. I feel letting her know before with some time to prep is good and I wasn't planning on just walking up and knocking on the door.....although I would rather do it that way. Haha! I think looking for something to do together while I'm there is a good plan and to get a bite to eat too would be nice. One day is all I really want, but if I get more then that's cool too. If I get none at all then that will say a lot and I will have a direction to go in. She threatened with divorce papers on the way and I got nothing for a whole month. She has tried to get me to play her game for awhile now and I have yet to do it and I'm not about to start now either.
