The schedule would allow me to have a set time to plan on him watching the kids if I have things I need to do. It would allow some predictablity for the boys vs him coming by whenever it works for him. HOWEVER I don't see me asking for a s schedule being a positive in H eyes. He will see it as me trying to control the situation. He said in C the woman I used to be was laid back and went with the flow and that since school started I'm not that person.

I guess the schedule would be more about H and the kids THEN me. I see it more as holding him accountable so probably not the right idea right now. I guess I can continue on with my life making plans and if he decides to come around so be it?

I struggle with what I'm supposed to do as far as contact. When he was texting last week asking about my day and thanking me I never responded. I guess maybe I should respond to those things?

Also for example the baby had a dr appointment today. I told him about it. Do I text him about how it went or leave it be? I wouldn't be using this as an opportunity to talk to talk to him other then just informing him about the baby. So again these are the things I don't know that I should be doing or not.



Thank you Sandi

I don't want to be this person. Who I have been is not an attractive person. I know that.

I know I'm supposed to let go. I just don't know exactly what that looks like like I've said many times. I think I come off as a bitch instead of light and breezy.

That's what I'm referring to when I say what I'm suppsss to do.

I want to feel better. I want to be happy. I'm just angry and hurt. I'm trying to work through all these emotions. I read the detachment thread again and the livestrong as well. I'm going to figure this out.

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