Okay I'm one of those who thinks you should have moved across country for her so yeah, I'm not opposed.
At this point I think you have nothing to lose by doing this unless you blow it. I would have given her a day's notice, btw.
Not enough time for her to try & change your mind but for her to shower, think ahead of how she feels, what she wants, and for her not to panic or feel intruded upon by a guy at the door "surprising" her.
You're not a man returning from combat whom she's waiting for...
You need, for you both to say your peace face to face...This need not be "The Finale" but it may give you some closure.
AS LONG AS you arrive with no expectations of her slapping her forehead in a seismic change of heart, packing her suitcase and leaving with you...(this is Not The Graduate where you get to rescue the bride from the wrong groom) you could be fine.
I hope this will be a great seed planting trip. Not "the Finale" and not necessarily closure, but a gesture that creates hope, and not much more at this point.
Oh and you better handle /anticipate the possibility she will have plans with others and NOT change them, b/c she's not ready to do that (and she did not know ahead of time)
and she will feel great pressure from you just expecting her to rearrange her life b/c you "finally" showed up. That may make her flee, but since you are only there for X days, which she needs to know btw, she can meet you
And You need to have plans of your own...no matter what.
so you will need to be "content" with maybe a lunch and dinner with her, or just one face to face conversation.
I think you want hope AND OR closure, but maybe the goal can be a conversation In which you will listen more than talk and
show passion without anger,
optimism without insensitivity to her pain,
and a willingness to move on in your life, glad that you two met and wishing her the best. Because you want her last image of you to be one she will remember and MISS...
good luck
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