W:ive had a lot going on in the evenings after work lately so im not positive but will try to. I am also worried about the conversation turning into one we have had many times and mentally i just cant do that anymore.
Validating response: "Oh I understand, you feel pressured when you see me in person. I am sorry you feel that way, but I will respect your boundaries. I think we can handle it by text, what I wanted to tell you is X, Y, Z." I By continually telling her that YOU want her to come by in person, you are pressuring her to get YOUR way and is that not "more of the same" behavior?
No you are right and so I sent her an email today basically saying that if seeing me makes you feel uncomfortable than we don't need to do that cause I don't want you to feel uncomfortable so she said she would call me tonight. I really need to focus on this conversation and what I want to say and not make it full of pressure cause I know that's pushing her away more. And only being less than 6 weeks into it's gotta be all still very fresh with her with loads of hurt still
