25yearsmlc 10 yrs later I File D (part 4)

[25yearsmlc]

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evidently h is in touch with d19, but they are obviously not close. I know they argue but can't say what about exactly. D19 mentioned to me that she told h he mistreated me and then - whatever....

H did not notice the birthdays of s31 or d28 & they have not spoken in months

None of the kids contacted h on Father's Day. So he's the victim again. Either b/c I "turned them against" him or b/c they are so ungrateful and spoiled.


I suspect his OW would like the money he "retired" from earning...
but I can't even go there. I mean, I hope I'm wrong about her.

I'll say this. Even when I'm fully ready to date, I won't date a man who is separated but not divorced

("what does sep mean to you? And oh, does your wife know you are 'separated'???) and if the guy has no r with his kids,

at this time of my life, that's too much baggage and it's a red flag to me. There are situations wherein kids can be turned but all of them?? And at this age??

H and I won't be married but he will still be their dad.

OH - h told d19 he's "not good at improving relationships"....

can't decide what that^^^ comment means, (it's almost like an insight)

but my reply - vis a vis our children would be

SHOW UP and SPEND TIME with them...it's not complicated