Cali, was looking through your post from a couple of months ago:
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I then told her I could drive to see her instead, but she told me again she just didn’t know if it would be good because she said she needed time. I ended up texting her later that day that I was respecting her decision to take time and I wouldn’t ask her to come and I wouldn't ask to come up there and I wouldn’t bring anything up unless she did. She simply texted back a thank you.
The last time you did this you promised her you wouldn't ask her to come, and that you wouldn't come there. So, what has changed that makes you think that breaking your promise is the healthy thing to do? Don't answer, just think about it. I'm sure you've heard that snippet that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.
You tend to get very, very defensive like C-nut said. All we're doing is trying to help, we give you the tools. It's up to you whether to pick them up and use them or not. But I'll warn you that it's hard to build anything without tools.
