W:ive had a lot going on in the evenings after work lately so im not positive but will try to. I am also worried about the conversation turning into one we have had many times and mentally i just cant do that anymore.
Validating response: "Oh I understand, you feel pressured when you see me in person. I am sorry you feel that way, but I will respect your boundaries. I think we can handle it by text, what I wanted to tell you is X, Y, Z."
By continually telling her that YOU want her to come by in person, you are pressuring her to get YOUR way and is that not "more of the same" behavior?
