otw!! my old friend. I don't read much on here anymore but usually stop by and see if I recognize the name... what a nice surprise!
So good to hear an update from you. Glad to see you are dealing with things well. Our WW's seem similar as do our situations (minus the children for me). The children must make it pretty hard for you.
You know my story pretty well. But just to rehash a bit. When WW first came back around, she would start contacting like crazy. I remember the first time we got together after 8 months of not seeing each other, it went great! Then that night, the contact stopped and she went cold. I could tell instantly. So it did take me a few days to adjust, but adjust I did and went back to very little contact. About 3-4 weeks later, she started contacting again and wanted to meet to 'talk'. So meet we did, we talked, it was just OK this time and then back to being cold but I just kept doing my thing. This repeated maybe 2-3 more times. Then from then on... almost a year now, she has not been cold or distant... in fact I have been!
Anyway, back to your situation. I tried to put myself in your shoes and thought about what I would do. LH has an interesting suggestion, but it is definitely not what I would do. The reason being is that I don't think one night would tell you anything. Anything can happen one night and she could be back to being cold the next day, no matter what happens. I don't think her saying yes or no to that offer means anything.
What I would do, is when she goes cold, is pretty much let it be, like you did several months ago. It is a long haul, longer than anyone thinks.
Of course I am not in your situation so I think you know the best course for yourself. Seems like you are going to wait and see... which seems like a good move to me!
Anyway, glad to see you posting! Hope you have time to post more often.
