Tread, just drop it, lose the desire for control (when it comes to W) and start your journey... Shoot, if you want control, walk up to her the next time you see her, look her dead in the eyes and tell her, I'm Done...
Then take your eyes off of her, from that moment on, just tell us about what tread and child is doing..
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized