y wife or what she’s up to no longer consume my every thought. I am here because I have a few lingering questions, when exactly will I stop “missing” my wife.
It varies, for me it was about the 2 year mark that I think I finally completely let go and moved on. I loved that family life I had, probably more than I realized at the time. Not only did W leave but 2 of my 3 kids grew up and moved out soon after too, so it was kind of a triple whammy for me. The kids moving out was inevitable anyway, but that's a huge adjustment to go through. My life looks a lot different now then it did back then, still fulfilling but in different ways.
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but every time she sends a ridiculous email to my lawyer it just pisses me off. W is still crazy af, selfish, lying and manipulative, so why does that make me angry?
Yeah my XW went through that too. To this day I still don't know if she was blatantly lying about the D settlement or if she really did believe the crap she said. I eventually gave her what she asked for just to end the misery, a prolonged court battle would have been like a 2nd BD and wasn't worth the $$ to me to fight it. I still think that was the right decision because my health and well-being was worth far more than the settlement. She settled down a lot after the D.
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I’m living, thriving, happy. BUT can’t help to feel like I’m still not healed, or like something’s missing. Any input greatly appreciated.
You're doing fine, I'd say your progression for being at 1 year is right where it needs to be Just give yourself more time!
Just give yourself more time!