Thank you Ginger,Peace, Skyhigh and OwniIt - what would I do without your steady advice?
Ginger - your sitch is somewhat similar to mine. My S is my miracle baby. Conceived on our 4th IVF cycle with an egg donor. All the while H was cheating.
Since being served I have asked him to move out. He refuses. He claims that he is concerned that I would use the fact that he moved out against him in some way. He obviously isn't being counseled very well or that is a bunch of bologna. In our jurisdiction - who lives where doesn't impact a single thing except the issue of custody if the parties live far apart. I am considering offering to sign something saying I won't use it against him (I have never even thought of doing that - I just want him away.)
The courts split custody time 50-50, right down the middle. For example a typical schedule is Monday & Tuesday (2 days) w/mom, Wednesday & Thursday (2 days) w/dad, 3 days (Fri, Sat. & Sun.)w/mom; then the exact opposite the following week.
How nuts is that? All that bouncing around. I just can't see how that is in the best interest of the child not to have one solid homebase, but I know I am supremely biased on the issue.
The PA behaviors are in full force and effect. H is a very angry man.
Yesterday was S's birthday. I celebrated the occasion on Friday with my parents. I bought a cake from my favorite bakery. It turned out not to be that good. On Saturday night while outside with H, S was picking out parts of it saying he didn't like it. I told S that I didn't like those parts either and apologized for selecting that cake.
Can you see where this is going?
Yesterday, H brings home a different cake from that bakery. A cake he has purchased for me in the past. The funny part is he asked S if he wanted to have some birthday cake for dessert and S said no. H tried again 10 minutes later and S adamantly told H "I don't want any birthday cake!"
