Newbie in limbo after wife's infidelity

[Coconut]

It really depends on the state of the A, if it's over then you support her and do the things she likes, family time, but not pressure her. If it's not over, then you won't be in an open M, and don't do those things..

I'm not saying jump back in to a MR with her as soon as she's out of the A, but show her that if she stays out of the A, there are benefits, good times to be had.