Ya I just don't know what neutral is exactly. Because I'm friendly but don't go out of my way to talk to him. Yesterday I didn't say much because they weee gone most of the day I made a small conversation about a soccer game that we talked about then walked out of the room and didn't talk much after. He went and got dinner for everyone and I thanked him for that and let him sit on the couch by himself while the boys and I watched a movie in my room.
We really don't talk much at all. If we do it's short and not about anything substantial unless it's kid related. And I haven't brought up anything. My dad was going to talk to him yesterday but I asked him not to. Like I said my uncle did but he told me it was very brief. He told H he's not taking sides and doesn't know much of anything what's going on just that he's not living at the house and that he hopes we can figure things out that we both have things we need to work on and that life is tough and relationships are hard. He's been married for 30 years and that there were plenty of times he wanted to walk away but that at the end of the day he's glad he didn't. He said H said a few things he's unhappy with me about and that he doesn't want to put the boys through a divorce but that he just doesn't know. Then I walked outside (didn't know they were talking) and the conversation ended.
I don't plan on initiating contact this week. I am not going to ask if he's staying the night I'll just see what happens. If he doesn't come by I'll have the boys call at night. If he texts about the kids I'll respond and I think this week if he asks about my day I'll respond since I didn't last week. That's about all I have for now who knows what will change. I haven't checked the phone bill since Friday because when is we bad things (realtors talking to boss daughter etc) it really brings down my ability to be As if.
