Quick question about Validating and 180. I have been attempting to validate especially when my wife brings up the relationships. One of my 180s is to be accountable when I am wrong and accept responsibility. Last night my wife mentioned that she had wished I would have had the attitude I have now for the past two years when she was trying to make our marriage better. I tried to validate saying. I am sorry you fell that way. I imagine it's really frustrating putting hard work in and not seeing the results you would like. It received a lukewarm reception, not the worst thing in the world. If I stayed true to my 180, I would acknowledge that I did not consistently put in the work to make our marriage better (I didn't) and I am fully accountable for where we are (also true).
I don't know if anyone could shed some wisdom. Both are true statements and how I feel. Sometimes, when I validate I feel like I sound like a greeting card and I'm not sure it comes off as being authentic.
