D is not the route I want to go down but I may not have a choice and my first priority has to be protecting mine and the kids futures.
I think there are a lot of MLCer wives out there that wish they had taken steps to protect themselves sooner! Like it's not enough that you have to suffer through the cheating and BD, but adding on financial misery on top of that is just too much!
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In all honesty I was hoping that kicking him out and him having to live in his single room in the barracks would be the wake up he needed he's only done one night and was making a lot of contact yesterday but I haven't heard from him today at all.
It could very well wake him up, but again be careful not to welcome him back with open arms too quickly. Especially if he really is MLC, if he is then his behavior is unlikely to change for a long, long time. He'll tell you whatever he thinks he needs to to get his way (cake eat). MLCers are raging liars.
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If and I'm pretty sure it won't but if he said he wanted to try it would be a very long road with both of us acknowledging the flaws in ourselves and our M and building up from there I could not just drop back into how it was. Be nice to have that option but I don't right now and perhaps never will.
Yes, exactly. We all come here wanting to know how to get back to normal, but "normal" is no longer an option after BD. The old marriage is already dead and gone by the time we find our ways here. I'll tell you this, of all the recon stories I've read after an affair, not one has gone smoothly. It's really tough to rebuild the trust after an A. Many times the LBS ends the relationship after recon because they feel like the MLCer will never change and they get tired of dealing with it. So just be prepared, no matter whether your M is saved or not you've got a tough road ahead!
