Go all,I'm sorry not to keep in contact for so long. I can't explain it.
I was hoping you could give some advice at short notice. I written today already but I'm rubbish with this stuff and I don't know if I sent it . Just trying different things and hoping it will send.
Things between us haven't changed except my wife saw solicitors to start proceedings last week with her "friend in tow telling her that it's hard at first but how great she will feel when it's done and she will be free.
I said that she had agreed( by text) to go to counseling first and she replied that o didn't talk with her. Of course it's impossible to communicate in a reasonable way and I have been trying to give space and earn money.
So on Friday I text her that I have 2 appointments available and she agreed to go. The appointment is for tonight in 3 for tonight in 3 hours with a relate counselor for couples counseling.
I know it's short notice but I would really appreciate advice as to what not to say or possibly things to say. For instance should I mention the other man or men ? How I only ever tried to look after her and our film, however well I succeeded.
Or just listen and sympathise with her ?
I'm concerned that after giving as much space, working and trying to look like I'm good as much as I could over the last few months that arranging counseling is giving the wrong signal.
Having said that is it possible she wants me to do this.
Having said that I recall her initially telling a friend that she wanted to go to counseling so that I would understand it's over. O f_Co, what can I do about it anyway.
I'm just hoping that a trained counselor can persuade her to think again.
Having said that I discounted divorce busting counseling because of the cost and being over the phone but would that help after all. How could I get her to talk to someone over the phone ? I'm confused.
Wish me luck for tonight and give me your thoughts please.
