ILYBINILWY - OW - what to do next

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I can stop him coming home he has a room at work so it's not like he has nowhere to stay and this is the consequence of his actions. I have told him I want to work on M he is adamant that he doesn't so do I now say I don't know what I want? By validating his feelings I feel like I'm validating A?

I can't see or speak to him at the moment it hurts too much. I don't have the choice of working at it or not he has made his mind up. He wants to stay in the house and nothing to change apart from separate rooms and carry on seeing OW surely not letting him back whilst he continues down this path is the right thing to do??

Sorry Coconut I appreciate your support so much but your post has confused me.